Mother’s Day is a wonderful day to bless the first woman in our lives. We shower her with gifts, flowers, special events, and cards filled with tender sayings. It’s important to remember that some women struggle to find joy on this Sunday. They may have recently lost their mother, suffered a miscarriage, are devastated by infertility, or placed a child for adoption.
For a birth mother, Mother’s Day can be a painful reminder of the loss and separation she may feel after placing her child for adoption. Take this time to honor these extraordinary women who have impacted your life in such an amazing way. Here are four ways to celebrate your child’s birth mom on Mother’s Day.
1. Choose to Remember Her on National Birth Mother’s Day
Since 1990, adoptees, adoptive moms, and others touched by adoption celebrate birth mothers on the Saturday before Mother’s Day. It is National Birth Mother’s Day.
This memorable holiday falls on Saturday, May 13th this year. It is an opportunity to honor the women who selflessly placed their children for adoption.
Every birth mother’s experience with adoption is unique. Although she chose adoption, some birth mothers experience different emotions about their decision. Mother’s Day can be a painful reminder of the loss she feels.
Honoring her on National Birth Mother’s Day sets her apart as someone special. You recognize her for the sacrifice she made. Depending on the level of openness and your relationship, send her a card, a gift, or just a text.
If nothing else, thank her on social media. Without mentioning her name, remind your friends and family that you are a mother because she also deeply loves the child you share. Use #NationalBirthMothersDay as a special hashtag.
2. As an Adoptive Mom, Honor the Woman Who Made You a Mother
For most women who adopt, adoption follows months, and most likely years, of infertility testing, drugs, and even surgeries. A woman who cannot biologically have a child finds Mother’s Day a cruel reminder of what she can never have.
But if a birth mother has chosen you, wish her a Happy Mother’s Day. Let her know that her incredible sacrifice also allowed you to celebrate Mother’s Day.
Thank your birth mother with a special gift if you have her address. If your adoption is semi-open, send a card through your mediator. Consider planting a tree or flowers in her honor.
3. Have Your Adopted Child Thank Their Birth Mother
It’s important for adopted children to know their story from the start. No matter how young, talking about their adoption from the beginning helps them realize they have a larger family than the people they call mom and dad.
If your adopted child is old enough to write a message and send a card, have them express their love and appreciation for their birth mother. They should wish her a Happy Mother’s Day and thank her for being their first mom.
For younger adopted children, create a picture using their handprints or footprints and send it with a note reminding her she’s an extraordinary mother, too. A child’s artwork is a lifelong treasure.
4. Celebrate Together!
Whether in person or virtually, invite your birth mother to your celebration. If you live close and your relationship is open, include her in your family meal or a special event. She may be more comfortable meeting outside of your home. Respect her feelings and plan accordingly, if possible.
Try FaceTime or a Zoom call if you don’t live near one another. By celebrating together, you are letting her know she is just as important as you. Plus, your adopted child learns to honor her as well.
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